Wow, I must say that throughout this 21 years of living, there have been many ups and downs, times when I was rebellion, times when I was matured, times when I was selfish, times when I was ruthless, times when I was compassionate and of course times when I was insecured.
Well, how many of you out there feels fat?
How many of you feel that you are not worth very much?
How many of you feel that you have too many pimples, not good looking enough or not fit enough?
How many of you feel that you are not popular enough and that you have too little friends?
Well, I guess we all feel that way at various points of time in our lives.
As the old adage goes, "The grass on the other side is always greener." We all know that but inevitably, we are still jealous of the others' strengths, like their good looks, great clothes, super-smart brains, great physique and popularity.
But the truth is, these people whom we are envy of, are just as equally insecure as all of us out there.
No matter how good looking they are, the moment some other people say that they look older now, they will get a lot more paranoid than the normal looking ones. Why is that so? Simple. It's because they have always been showered with praises, and the moment these praises are replaced with a little criticisms, they will break down for it's an anomaly and we abhor anomalies or consensus that disobey our faiths.
Even if you have the perfect body, the moment someone say you are a little fatter, you get paranoid. Even if you have the perfect clothes, the moment someone say that it's not very nice, you will start to wear it less often to avoid more criticisms for you do not wish to hear the same thing from your other friends.
We humans, always play on the defensive side, when we get praises from something we do or wear, we will keep doing it.
Au contraire, if we get a slight criticisms, we will abolish it altogether.
Hence, my point is that we should not get overly-jealous about what the others have. Rather, we should look at our own strengths which the others are jealous of. Focus on your own strengths more. It is clearly impossible to oversee your own weaknesses and insecurity but at the very least, you can actually alleviate the pain you suffer from your own insecurity everyday.
That is probably how the fad, "emo" came about today. That people are constantly insecure and jealous, which in turn causes them to fret over unnecessary issues but I guess that's life.
The only thing we can do now is to tell ourselves that we are indeed powerful and that we are who we are. It's okay to be who we are and that we can still continue doing things that define us.
Do not give up on something you truly love just because the others criticise you on it, for they might just be jealous that you have found something you love and that they have not, up till today. Continue being tenacious, it will pay off one day.
I will like to end off by saying Happy 21st to myself and I hope that everyone of you out there will enjoy the day, 13 May.
Thank You!
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